Year Six: The Murder Mystery Wedding

I grew up loving the board game Clue.
My friend Kristen and I would play for hours and hours and hours while watching the movie Clue.

A great fun murder mystery? Super grand time in my book.

Naturally, when I discovered there were Mystery dinners and mystery theatre… well…
that just opened a whole new world of crazy fun possibilities!

In 2008 I convinced Bryan we should do a Murder Mystery Dinner. It went awesome so when it came to our next wedding I threw out the idea to do it as a giant Murder Mystery Wedding.


He loved the idea!

I'm sure there are like a ton of sites you could buy a pre-written murder mystery from but…
considering I like to write and the thought of asking people to memorize lines did not sound like fun, I decided to write it myself to prevent me from wasting money and re-writing whatever I bought.

I only have a few odd gifts and coming up with fun stories is one of them.

First we had to think of a story… and that starts with a dead body.

We didn't want to kill the bride or groom. Super bummer at a wedding.
We needed a villain of sorts that a bunch of people would have a motive to kill.
In came Col. Reginald Cumberbottom.


I called up one of my friends and asked if he would perform our wedding for us that year…
(That is him above and his lovely wife Sarah, whom I crazy adore) and if we could kill him off.
I bet he didn't even flinch on the other side of the phone. Although most normal people would if you called them up and asked if you could kill them… but since he had been my friend for awhile he probably wasn't surprised in the least.

Now once you have someone to kill… then the motives and characters just start rolling in.

I called up a few of my friends and asked if they would be game to be apart of my Mystery. Then I started creating their characters. I tried to pick certain personality traits my friends either had or didn't have and make it the focal points of their character they would play for the evening.

My murder Mystery parties are basically all improve. I pick the players and send them a packet in the mail. In the packet is their entire character: their name, their personality, what they would be likely to wear and their motive. {Because everyone has a motive} Along with that at the very bottom I tell them if they are the killer or not. Only two people usually know who the killer is and it's me and the killer. Not even the person getting killed finds out till the end so that they can vote too.

With everything they need to become another person for the evening it's then all the characters jobs to inform the guests through casual conversations or often open fights between other characters their backgrounds and motives or other characters motives. This turns the entire evening into an interactive adventure that the guests have to pay attention too or they will be stumped when someone suddenly drops dead.

Here were all my characters:


And here was our main story that went out to all of our guests:



Bryan & Jessica O'Brian have been happily married for over six years... or so they thought. When they tried to set up a trust for their two kids with their newly inherited fortune from their Great Aunt Margo their lawyer informed them of a crucial fact… their Marriage was never legal. Which means any children birthed during that time would not be eligible for Great Aunt Margo’s fortune as a stipulation in her will.  
         Since they had been dirt broke when they wed an old family friend had offered his service to marry them for free. Yet, Colonel Reginald’s “online ordination” was about as legit as his corrupt business empire and the O’Brian’s aren’t the only people Colonel Reginald has caused issue for over the years. In an attempt to confront Colonel Reginald with his dastardly doings the O’Brian’s are getting re-married by the now officially ordained Colonel again with many of the invited guests Dying to speak their minds to Colonel Reginald. It will be a wedding to Die for.

                                           
Fun huh? :)

Thankfully, it's actually a proven fact that I only make friends with Awesome people. I don't set out to do this. Everyone I meet and am blessed to form a friendship with just turn out to be completely AWESOME.

I mean what other people would agree to my crazy shenanigans?! (Besides Bryan who adores them)

The evening went amazing. I had coached everyone to stay in character no matter what but I was so overwhelmed by their awesome performances and how blessed I was to even know these people… I broke character almost the whole night with laughter.




Col. Reginald loved his "special mug". He drank his sweet tea out of it like a true Southerner. Yet, his beloved cup would be his demise as throughout the night our characters were taking it from him… one may have even slipped something in it..





If I could have recorded any wedding I wish we would have done this one. They went crazy with their characters, especially my friend Jason Fite who married us that evening. I'm pretty sure we should have paid to see his awesome performance as Colonel Cumberbottom… he was that great.

Yet, his grand skills couldn't get him out of what happened shortly after we cut the cake…





It literally had to be one of the longest death scenes ever… He even came back a few times to randomly shout things just for good measure. 


After his demise the jig was up and all of our guests had to vote on which one of us done it.

Was it the cut off step-son? His angry cheese-making wife?
Was it the bride and groom whose fortune was going to go to Cumberbottom instead of their kids?
How about his right hand man who knew all his dastardly deeds?

I'd tell you… but then you might be next.

I think we'll have to have a Murder Mystery Wedding every few years…

It was killer.

God Bless and Much Love,

Jessica

Year Four: Get Married by Elvis!

When Bryan and I started our Anniversary Tradition we both joked that we wanted to one day get married by Elvis in Las Vegas. I'd always seen people on tv shows and movies getting married in Vegas and it looked like a total blast.

After having Elliot we thought it would be a great time to go to Vegas before we started trying for Baby Mac #2. We are firm believers in taking vacations without your kids. It helps to refresh your relationship with your husband but also with your kids!

Sometimes taking even a night away from your kids helps refresh you to not only give them fresh grace but give you fresh grace because parenting is hard. I know I need to be reminded pretty much every hour that I'm not as evil of a parent as I think I am or that my kids are as evil as they seem!

We made our plans. Found the best Elvis Chapel to re-new our vows, booked a posh hotel, got tickets to the Cirque show 'O' and even convinced Bryan's brother and his wife to come with us! And after we returned we'd get preggos.

Well, if you have read my blog for long you know God has the best time tweaking my plans.

So, off we went to Vegas to get married… 8 weeks pregnant with Ethan.

Now I was going to at least get my money's worth at the buffets.

Back to the Wedding…

This was probably our easiest wedding to throw as we just had to show up.
They sent a limo to our hotel, picked us up, provided a photographer and even webcast the entire wedding live for our family and friends back home to see.

It was pretty epic.

As a themed wedding expert (who has no certification or any expertise whatsoever…) I would definitely recommend renewing your vows with Elvis. He puts on one awesome show.



Riding in style.



When we explained why we were getting married to Elvis he was a bit surprised then just ran with it.
He worked in our story throughout the ceremony as well as so many Elvis song references it kept us in stitches the entire time.





Each year along with memories I've also been collecting wedding rings.
On the cruise ship we used a piece of confetti from one of Disney's deck celebrations they had shot in the air. For the Prom wedding it was a tacky ribbon and for the shotgun wedding we bought a $9 yellow diamond from Wal-Mart.
This massive blue diamond surprised Elvis so much it actually tripped him up and he had to start his sentence over. Pretty impressive since I'm sure he has seen quite a lot of crazy in Vegas...



There was a ton of singing and dancing. Though it only lasted about 9 minutes it was so much fun.








Our Vegas wedding was everything and more than I could have ever imagined.
I mean how can you go wrong with Elvis?



Thank ya, thank you very much.


God Bless and Much Love,

Jessica

Missed a Wedding? Check them out here! 
Year One - The Cruise ship Wedding
Year Two - The Ugly Prom Wedding
Year Three - The Shotgun Weddin



Year Three: The Shotgun Weddin'

Bryan has a knack for catching me off guard and making me speechless.

Sometimes it's romantic, sometimes I'm just stupefied at his brilliance and others… I'm shocked out of my socks he just did that. Like the, "Oh you did NOT just do that!" or the "Oh you Rock so much I can't believe how much fun you are!" kind of just did that.

One of my favorite such times…

We were in Wal-Mart, I'm eight months pregnant with Elliot and HUGE. We both are dressed in dirty paint clothes from painting Baby Mac's nursery when suddenly he turns to me in the check out line, drops to one knee and loudly in the best hick voice he could muster… asks me to marry him.

He holds out a $9 fake yellow diamond ring to me with a big cheesy smile and I order him to get his butt up and pay for our stuff before I freak out.

That kick starts Year Three in our Wedding Tradition.

I was going to be nine months pregnant with Elliot when our anniversary rolled around and it didn't take but a second to realize we had to do a Shotgun wedding.

Never heard of a shotgun weddin?
It use to happen down here in the south when a Daddy found out some fella knocked up his little girl.
He'd take his shotgun and go make that fella his daughter's groom by the end of the day.

We had the BEST time with this wedding's theme. Everyone was dressed up and in full red neck character the entire night. From the burnt invites to the roadkill food, it truly was a masterpiece and something to behold… Go ahead and take a gander. There is even the wedding video at the bottom.
You're welcome.



My parents hosted this wedding at their house and everything I've ever learned about parties and hosting I learned from them. They make everything absolutely amazing. 



They also are super fun and always willing to go along with our "unique" ideas.
My dad followed Bryan around the entire day with this shotgun to make sure he married his little girl.


My mom takes her costumes to a new level of art each wedding. She was my maid of honor for this shindig and she never disappoints. The entire wedding though she was looking for her poor little dog… we didn't have the heart to tell her where he was.



 My in-laws get into it just as much. When I first met them they were quiet, sweet and I had assumed very proper at all times. I mean they may have been… until they met me and I set their inner crazy free.
They are always a blast and constantly surprising me.


My man got some ink for the big day…


Our hillbilly wedding cake. Twinkies, Abita and nutty buddys.


My Daddy walked me down our makeshift aisle and then all the shinnenanegans really began…




Bryan's outfit creeped me out so much I almost didn't let him kiss me when they said we were hubby and wife. I mean those teeth were scary!




The wedding was a huge success and a roaring good time.
Two big hillbilly thumbs up!


But why should you take my word for it when you can watch the wedding yourself? 
It's nuts and out there but it was a ton of fun. Enjoy!






Thanks for stopping by and Y'all come back now ya hear? 

God Bless and Much Love,

Jessica

Missed a Wedding? Well, what ya waiting for?
Year One - The Cruise ship Wedding
Year Two - The Ugly Prom Wedding


Year Two: The Ugly Prom Wedding

If you are just tuning in, I am spending this week telling you about our Weddings.
If you want to catch up and figure out why Bryan and I re-new our vows each year check out Year One. 

We were excited to continue our tradition and since I never had a Prom at my high school growing up we immediately choose to do an 80's Ugly Prom. Epic, I know. ;)

Yet, the end of 2009 was a bit rough for us.
We had decided to move and put our house on the market because we found out we were having a baby! House hunting and house selling though was very exhausting and disappointing. We were feeling pretty raw and clingy with each other when on Halloween we got some really bad news that our little pumpkin had stopped growing at 6 weeks.

While God was definitely working something awesome to come later down the road from our heartache (check out the awesome story here) somehow having a huge bash to start off our annual tradition didn't really seem exciting to us anymore.

So, instead we invited a small group of friends who helped turn our mourning into dancing.
Really awful dancing…

We held the prom at our home and every prom needs a cheesy backdrop and some cheesy posed photos:







My Awesome In-laws who always are on board with our silliness. 

We were striking our prom poses when the doorbell rang and this couple showed up: 


At first we had no idea who they were. 
Then we looked closer and realized… It was my parents. 

Now suddenly a conversation from that morning made sense…

Mom: "There is a costume contest tonight right?" 
Me: "A costume contest? I guess so… why not." 
Mom: "Great. Better get a good first place prize." 


We still don't know how in the world she got my super awesome dad to dress in drag but it was stinkin hilarious. They without a doubt won best dressed.

After photos it was time to tie the knot.

My in-laws Carol and Jim took on the very solemn duty of officiating our wedding. They dressed up in official garb and everything and the ceremony lasted at least twenty minutes.



We didn't give them any instructions and much like when my parents officiated they pretty much had free reign to make up vows we know nothing about until we have to say them.


This wedding had many vows that I was super not ok with like "keeping my home spotless or rising early every morning to make Bryan breakfast". I mean who did they think I was? An awesome wife?! My awesomeness comes in other less practical ways… 
But if you'd like to take a look at the vows handwritten by the McCarty Matriarch's take a gander below. They are adorables: 






It was a beautiful and hilarious party and that was definitely a time we needed to laugh.

I've still never been to a Prom but I feel my prom was way cooler than any I would have ever attended in high school… and my date was way hotter.

God Bless and Much Love,

Jessica

You do what? : Renewing our vows every year

It's November!

Bryan and I's favorite month.

If you've known me long you know I'm pretty into Thanksgiving. I crazy love Turkey.
Yum… turkey…

Besides turkey, November is the month Bryan and I got hitched and became parents.
Elliot was born the day before Thanksgiving. AWESOMENESS!

It's a pretty big month for us. :)

Each November we also re-new our vows. We have had a ton of fun over the years and as we make new friends we confuse them to pieces when an invitation to our "wedding" or when talk about our "wedding" coming up.

It's an odd tradition. Some think it awesome. Some Romantic. Some super weird.
I only had one person tell me, "Oh you still do that? Aren't you over that silly thing yet?"

Nope. We are not.

When Bryan and I got married in 2007 I wasn't really a planned-my-wedding-since-I-was-seven kind of girl. I made quick decisions and didn't treasure a lot because I was very eager to start the marriage and the wedding day was a step in my way to that.

Also when I got married I had just returned from working at Disney and I had a whopping one friend.
Seriously. I had just come out of a twenty year slump of selfishness that prevented me from making lasting friendships because they figured out I was a tool… so… yea…

Discounting those things… our wedding day was beautiful. 
It was romantic and stunning and it made us one. Huge success in my book.

Yet, as our one year anniversary approached I started to finally get into weddings. Like in how they looked and what you could do and I also had a few more friends. Bridesmaid worthy friends.

While I didn't regret our first wedding I was starting to realize I should have jumped on the wedding planning bandwagon much sooner… like before I actually got married.

Bryan: "Why don't we just get married again?"
Me: "Can we do that?"
Bryan: "We can do whatever we want."

So, we decided to re-new our vows on our one year anniversary. We would make it our tradition and do fun and crazy things so that I would never look back on my real beautiful wedding with, "Oh I wish I would have done that…"

While it may have started out with silly fun reasons our tradition started taking on a mind of it's own.

Marriage is an amazing union that not enough people celebrate.
Anniversaries are just as bad. Jokes mocking husbands who forget it and wives so wrapped up in kids that it just becomes another day on the calendar all take away the beauty and majesty God intended for marriage.

While it does sometimes take a lot of effort to pull off these weddings each year, it's effort we put in because to us it is important.

Our marriage keeps us sane. Without Bryan, I'd be in a Disney Asylum somewhere and he would be one grumpy old man without me.

God brought us together to grow with one another and work for His glory together.

Nothing to us is more important than our relationship. Not even our three amazing boys. Or I should say Especially them because without our relationship they wouldn't exist.

We also love reminding people that their marriage is important! That it isn't crazy to celebrate it in understated or over the top ways as long as they DO celebrate it!

It matters. 

So, now you know how it started and each year we get more reasons to KEEP doing it then to ever stop. Now let's take a look at our weddings!

I'm going to spend this week highlighting each of them.

We have had six Anniversary Weddings so far starting with the one below:

Year One: The Cruise Ship Wedding

We decided about a week before we went on a family vacation with my parents and little brother that we were going to do this "re-new our vows every year thing".

I called my mom up:
Me: "Hey, Bryan and I decided to marry each other every year. Would daddy marry us on the ship?"
Mom: "Um… ok."

It was small and lasted about ten minutes. Dressed in matching Hawaiian outfits my mother-in-law had gotten us from their recent trip to Hawaii we found a quiet deck on the boat as we sailed out of Orlando. (It was a Disney cruise… obviously…)

My little brother walked me down the make shift isle while my mom took photos.


My dad looked at us both and gave us his charmer smile as he pulled out the vows he had written for us to say on an airplane barf bag. Yep. My awesomeness was hereditary.


We laughed as my dad made Bryan say vows that he would let us go on vacation with my parents every year and get me a bigger diamond ring on each anniversary.

Then we smiled as he reminded us why we said "I do" in the first place a year ago before.


It was fun and cheesy but completely us. 


Mickey even agreed.

God Bless and Much Love,

Jessica